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9// Poster are up!

9// Poster are up!


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September 24, 2012 · 10:23 pm




Date  : 13TH TO 14TH OCTOBER 2012

Time  : 2PM – 6PM


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Salam Harapan

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7// ‘Don’t throw me Mum…’


Sad. Disappointing. Unfortunate. Uneducated. Sick. Shameful. To be expressing all those negative comments may lead to.. nothing but pointless drama. It has happened. The baby died. MasyaAllah.. 😦 Here’s the link if you haven’t realized our society need help from us –

After reading it throughout and getting to the bottom of the story, what myself can conclude from reading was our society (she’s a young – 20 years old, a factory worker) need help and support as much as possible. She must have friends surround her or at least her manager in the factory where she works. Her friends should have known, even though its obvious that she hides her pregnancy that she needed help. Of course it is her to be blamed in the end. Its her baby, which she never use her logical thinking before even agree to be on the same bed as the responsible man. Selfish and such disgrace. Please ladies, remember our family’s good name as we bring wherever we go. Think ahead before perform any actions. Pray to Allah as He will always be there for us. Al-Quran, read and recite as many as we can and InsyaAllah we will be protected. May Allah forgive our sins and guide us to Jannah, Ameen. Here’s one NGO which provide baby hatch for those who intend to ‘place’ the baby. 

a) Please read this (

Please don’t come here and think its okay to do it. Because they are here to HELP OUR SOCIETY TO LESSEN THE DISGRACE YOU BRING! but never will ever support you in every way possible. You do it, you be RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR ACTIONS!

“She lives with her family on the third floor of Block One. Apparently, no one in the family knew that she was pregnant. We believe that she tried to cover up the birth by throwing the baby from the window of her flat,” he said. Resources from (


“He is the First (nothing is before Him) and the Last (nothing is after Him), the Most High (nothing is above Him) and the Most Near (nothing is nearer than Him) [al-Hadeed 57:3]


Assalamualaikum, Salam Harapan.

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6// Fruits For Thought


Its been awhile since the last time I’ve been on word press and write up on activities happened for past weeks. Been neglecting it as the space given is the time for me to brush up on my English writings. Youth of Hope Malaysia has done quite few visits to places hence this article – ‘Fruits For Thought’ which means concern and support towards cancer patients (children). Yes, children roughly aged 5 to 15 develop cancer and had several treatments given by doctors. Some has little hair, however comes with such beautiful faces and amazingly well attitude, we were overwhelmed to be accompanied by these children. Couldn’t get tears held in hence it flows down the cheeks. Quickly turned around and wiped it off before any of those beautiful angels sees it. Happy faces and positive environment being created whenever each room entered by us as they acknowledged our presence that comes with plastic of fruits. There were bananas, star fruits, oranges, grapes and pear to be distributed to each room. 

Without the existence of official letter, it has also create an unfortunate situation where camera are not allowed in the area. Despite stern advice given by the nurse, we are concede with the preparations for future visits and were support by the ever lovely nurses – Nurse Roszitah to continue doing such great effort. Alhamdullilah, only Allah SWT understands how much it means to us.. Thank you Allah..

I would suggest to those who have no plans on weekends, rather than wasting money on things which doesn’t bring any good only harm, come and visit those kids. They will so surprise and very much excited inside. 


Salam Harapan Semua, Assalamualaikum 🙂Image


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5// A Note Of Love To All My Single Girlfriends by Zarina Ibnatu Zul Mukshar @ Jenna

This article written by Jenna, an amazing woman with incredible love stories which has awaken us sisters. 


Last night my husband & I went for grocery shopping and we bought not-so-glamorous stuffs for the house like floor cleaner, cooking oil & rice; and then it struck me that we’re so married! Hehe… Alhamdulillah… It got me thinking of the things that I would do instead last night if I was still single; and it reminds me of my single friends who (I assume) like me once – waiting, hoping & looking for Mr. Right. Yes, I was all that, waiting, hoping & looking, and now when Allah sends my husband to me,for me, it happened so quickly, so fast, we were married within two-and-a-half months after the first day we laid eyes on each other! How did it happen? It’s Allah’s decree, no doubt. Alhamdulillah..


Before I deep-dive further into my marriage, I feel that I need to do my part to share with you bits and pieces of advice on the journey of finding ‘the one’. Please take this from my own experience and observation and it is not anyway to be treated like ‘the checklist’, but I think it will help insyaAllah.


#1 – Be Fair


A friend of mine told me that ‘we’ll get who we deserve’, and many years later I realized and come to my wisdom that it’s true; and to me, it’s even written in the Quran that: “…women of purity are for men of purity, and men of purity is for women of purity” – Qur’an 24:26. So ladies, before we list down our criteria in a man that we’re looking for, like “Dia mestilah seorang yang bertanggung jawab, beriman & menghormati orang tua etc., do reflect again are we all that in the first place? Are we responsible? Are we pious? Are we respectful to the elders?


#2 – Hook Up with Allah & Allah will Hook You Up


We are Muslims. And we know that Allah is the Creator and He holds our future, our life. And only from Him we could be guided to find the one, the right one, the good one. So do check out this great article on the explanation of Hook Up with Allah & Allah will Hook you Up. I hold this concept true to my heart during my single days and hopefully you’ll find it beneficial too insyaAllah.


#3 – Be Proactive


When I and a few other friends were single, we are inspired by the story of our Mother of the Believers, Khadijah Binti Khuwailid r.a. There is an article on it, which is “Just Because Khadijah Ask” and one of the excerpts in the article says:


“Khadijah asked. Khadijah, may Allah’s Mercy be upon her, asked about Prophet Muhammad for marriage. She initiated the communication. She sent someone on her behalf to find out if he was available for marriage. And it was because she asked, that she got that blessed answer. And with that answer, was the beginning of the of the greatest stories of love for all times, and also one of the greatest examples of a true muhsina and mumina. A woman older than him, previously married with children, was inquiring about a younger bachelor, from one of the best tribes in town.  The honor of his acceptance wasn’t just hers alone. It was his too. He was going to marry one of the most beautiful hearts in all of Mecca. A woman who’s heart would sacrifice everything she had to support him, and Islam. Khadijah asked.”


Check out this website for the article:


I’m not saying just get out there and ask any male passers-by if they’re single and looking; but be truthful to begin with. The next time your aunts asking you when you’re getting married?; instead of replying “I just want to focus on my career for now”, please remove your ego and say “I have not found one, why not you introduce me to someone Aunty? I am ready to settle down.” They will usually quickly think of someone for you, or the at least they will think of you when the next time any of her friends start asking for any single girls to marry their bachelor sons, and if that doesn’t happen too, the very least they will stop asking you when and that will lift unnecessary pressure.


Besides that, be active in community service, environmental projects, language classes, or any halal activities of your interest. You’d tend to meet more people outside your regular circle of friends, and raise the possibilities of meeting the one; and best of all he will share the same interest as you. Sharing the same interest is always a good thing to begin with.


#4 – He will be the Father of Your Children


I went for a talk by Yunus Kathrada, he told us a story of a man who went to see a Syeikh to seek advice on his newborn child. Which is good to always seek advice, but the Syeikh responded to the man “It’s too late”. Why? The Syeikh said that the process of raising an excellent child begins even before we get married – by selecting a good spouse to begin with. I have heard stories about girl meets boy at Hard Rock Café, at Zouk nightclub and what else have we. I cannot say that couples met at all these places would be heading to a crappy marriage, but think about it. Don’t we all want a good beginning for our union that would bear us pious and righteous kids in the future?


For a very good lecture on this, it brought tears to my eyes. Allahuakbar. Please YouTube search this: “Mufti Menk parent~child relationship”


Maybe what I’m trying to say also is, all human are born with a fitrah, an innate feeling of returning to the Almighty Allah. No matter how naughty we are at a point of our lives, at the back of our heads I’m sure we’ll be thinking “I will repent and return to Allah one day”. But, if girl meets boy at nightclub, and then they get married, years later the girl feels like she wants to get closer to Allah while the boy still would like to party; then we’ll see a problem when the girl starts going to religious classes and want to go for Umrah, while her husband refuse to even pray his solat. Which of the parents will the children look up to and follow? Let’s think far, and choose wisely. 


Besides that, observe his temperament & his reaction towards children – the last thing you would want when you’re married with 3 kids crying in your arms, you ask for his help with the kids and he says.. “You know right honey, me and kids just don’t gel”…


#5 – Eliminate, Banish Your Baggage


I believe there is wisdom for free-mixing and dating is haraam in Islam. We all know that GF-BF concept is superficial; we will never get to know the true color of someone until we live with them – day in, day out. If you are still not convinced that dating is haram, the are a lot of hadiths to prove it, but I will share one here that I feel so strong about:


It was narrated that Ma’qil ibn Yassaar said: the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “For one of you to be stabbed in the head with an iron needle is better for him than that he should touch a woman who is not permissible for him.” 

-Narrated by al-Tabaraani in al-Kabeer, 486. Shaykh al-Albaani said in Saheeh al-Jaami’, 5045, that this hadeeth is saheeh. 


Don’t tell me people who “couple” and “date” don’t even touch each other. Dating/couple/in a relationship is haram my dears. Fear Allah and seek for his help to give you strength to do the right thing.


And to me, the other ugly side of this “dating” relationship is, it does not always have the happy ending. I have heard stories of a bride crying on her wedding day when her ex-boyfriend called her up for a last good bye, some still can’t get over their exes even after having children; some still secretly get in touch with their exes just to ask “How have you been”?” subhanAllah… May Allah protect us from this.


If you still have issues or still cannot get over an ex, deal with it now. It will fog-up your path to find the one, and you will always have the shadow of your ex over your decision on moving on with another man. You would only want to have a vision of you and your husband and your kids in the future, and not the thought of “How would it be if I marry him instead?” Wise up, girls!


#6 – Be Selective, Not Picky


I believe there is a fine line between being selective and picky. To me, if you decline a proposal from a guy that is pleasing to the eyes, well mannered and has a stable income; but he smokes & you realized that he seldom attends Friday prayers, then yes you’re being selective. But if you decline a proposal from a guy that is pleasing to the eyes, well mannered, has stable income, doesn’t smoke, and is Allah-fearing, but he is a mommy’s boy (or he’s balding, or he has an interesting hobby of collecting dried leaves) then you’re being picky.


Key thing to remember here “Deal Breaker”. If he has or lacks of certain pivotal quality/characteristic that you cannot live with/without then it is big reason not to marry him. For example, if you know you’re a career driven person and have major career ambitions but your potential husband wants you to eventually quit your job to look after the kids then that’s the “Deal Breaker”. But please do not confuse deal breaker with differences. For example, if you like to eat Japanese and hates Italian food but he cannot bear the thought of eating raw fish but loves pasta, this is not deal breaker. Both of your can still work around differences and it is silly to have a big fight over which restaurant to go have dinner. But “Deal Breakers” are something that could most likely put a strain in a marriage in which failing to manage could lead to divorce. See the significance?


However, please try not to overanalyze and being hypercritical. Another key thing to remember is: Nobody Is Perfect, and no sayang, not even you.


#7 – Be Ready to Give (Up)


Marriage is not all about sex. It’s not all about him showering you with endless love and affection. It’s not all about cuddling & curling up together in the bed every night. Yes, it is all that, but it is not all and everything about that. It’s not all about you! Marriage needs sustenance, and it does not come for free, you need to work for it. You need to give. Just like how we expect our men to know manly stuffs like how to change the car tyre when it punctures or know to repair a leaking pipe or how to assemble a DIY baby cot; I’m sure men would also expect the wives to know womanly stuffs like how to cook, how to do laundry properly and perhaps iron man’s work clothes.


Of course most of us could say that it’s the modern world now, women don’t need to know how to cook and clean and that we can get a maid to do all that. But would you really want to get a maid to cook your husband’s meals & iron your husband’s work shirts? I know it’s easier said than done, but who say that to maintain a happy marriage is effortless & easy?


Ready to give, includes being ready to give up. Do you have male friends who you often hang with, or who to you “we’re just friends?” or “we’ve been friends for so long he’s like a brother to me”? Guess what? After you’re married, I would need to advice you to give them up like a bad habit. I know along the years we have made so many friends including guy friends, but once we’re married we CANNOT hang out with them anymore. I am not saying we cannot be friends anymore, but it is with loads of limitation. I trust that you would use your wisdom on how to draw the line. Even though you future husband is the “coolest” guy on earth (and Allah forbids) he allows you hang out with any of your guys friends, once you’re being seen by other people hanging out with another guy other than your husband, you’ve lit a spark for fitnah and speculation which will spread like wildfire. Imagine a neighbour saw you walking with your male friend at a mall, and she tells your mother in-law. High voltage drama huh?


Trust. Could take years to build, but only a minute to destroy.


#8 – It’s Him Not His Money


So, he drives a BMW and earns RM20k a month? OR So, he drives his father’s first car and don’t really have a proper job? BUT I say So what?


Often times girls will look for a man that is wealthy and rich – that’s completely common. Its a biological and psychological thing. We need look for men that can “hunt & gather” to provide security, shelter and food to take care of us and our young. It’s a survival thing.


However, either he is rich or broke; he is actually rich or broke NOW. Who are we to say that their wealth will be there forever, or that they will earn very little money for lifetime? The key point to stress, is his deen (iman) & character. Does he have the right knowledge and iman to guide you and your young. Does he have maturity and good character to endure the challenges of the world and maried life? They say money is the #1 cause of divorce nowadays. But do you think it’s the money or how the married couple deal and manage when they’re stuck in a situation that involves money?


I am not saying, go into marriage blindly but please use your wisdom and not your desire. He may not have much today, but if you see that he has the willpower to work hard to earn a better living and you believe with all your heart that Allah is All Provider, insyaAllah you’ll be fine.


For me, during the ta’aruff (introduction meeting) with my then-not-yet-husband, I asked him about his education. To me and maybe to a lot of parents education is key. Personally, I don’t mind if he is a burger flipper at Ramly Burger (he’s not by the way), but if he has a qualification, or a degree or something, insyaAllah he has something to fall back on. I didn’t ask him about how much he’s earning or anything like that, because it’s not important to me. Have faith in Allah that He is The All Provider.


From Umar ibn Al-Khattab from the Prophet (sas) who said:


“If only you relied on Allah a true reliance, He would provide sustenance for you just as He does the birds: They fly out in the morning empty and return in the afternoon with full stomachs.”

Ahmad, An-Nasaa’I, Ibn Majah, Al-Hakim and At-Tirmidhi who said: “Hassan sahih”


#9 – Know the Rights of Husband & Obligations of Wife, Vice Versa.


A lot of us dreams of getting married one day to wear nice dress on the wedding day. But after the wedding day is over a whole new world of responsibilities await you and him. Both husband and wife has a list of responsibilities within the Islamic guidelines. Read them up, study them. By abiding to this guidelines, almost certainly we can maintain a happy marriage by the will of Allah.

But often, during tense and trying times the husband and wife would usually accuse each other of not full filling his/her rights. For example the husband would say “You should beautify yourself for me and not look like a mess at home!”; and the wife would say something like “You’re supposed to provide a home for us, but we been living with your housemate for months now!”


A key guideline to this is to prioritize your obligations as a wife and to respect the rights of the husband. And vice versa of course. Know your obligations, what you should do, your responsibilities BEFORE thinking about your rights, his obligations, what he should do and his responsibilities.


So now.. can you manage to fulfill all your obligations? Are you such a strong-headed person that would be able to listen to your husbands advice? Do you have the right attitude to be kind to your husband? Do you still think that after you’re married you can do whatever you want and allow anybody into your house without your husband’s permission? What would you do if you have a long tiring day at work but you need to fulfill your husband’s physical desire? Do you have the right motivation to beautify yourself (at home) to be pleasing to his eyes with your appearance? Basically, do we have the right mindset to strive to be a good wife? Or do we still think it’s all about me, me, me?


Please ponder on this hadith:


Qays ibn Sa’d Narrated: I went to al-Hirah and saw them (the people) prostrating themselves before a satrap (governor of a province in ancient Persia) of theirs, so I said: The Apostle of Allah (peace_be_upon_him) has most right to have prostration made before him. When I came to the Prophet (peace_be_upon_him), I said: I went to al-Hirah and saw them prostrating themselves before a satrap of theirs, but you have most right, Apostle of Allah, to have (people) prostrating themselves before you. He said: Tell me , if you were to pass my grave, would you prostrate yourself before it? I said: No. He then said: Do not do so. If I were to command anyone to make prostration before another I would command women to prostrate themselves before their husbands, because of the special right over them given to husbands by Allah. [Hadith: Sunan Abu Dawud, 11:2135]


Heavy. I know… 😦


But marriage is such a pure & beautiful thing that if we fulfill every obligations for the sake of Allah, we shall be rewarded for every effort insyaAllah.


Ibn Hibban narrated that the Prophet(Sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) said, “If a woman prayed five prayers, fasted in Ramadan, protected her honor and obeyed her husband; then she will be told (on the Day of Judgment): enter Paradise from any of its(eight) doors.”


insyaAllah…Yeay!! 😀


#10 – It is the Marriage, Not the Wedding


I think we heard countless times that engaged couples are putting off marriage because they do not have enough money to hold the wedding. If you’re imagining a wedding with rotating wedding cake, nasi minyak lobster menu, tents decorated with thousands of tulips from Amsterdam, haute couture Vera Wang wedding dress and French Riviera honeymoon (ok, I’m exaggerating here but you get the picture) – then no wonder why you need to put off your wedding.


But my dears, it’s really not all about the wedding. Some of my friends asked me whether it was the happiest day of my life; I had a little trouble answering that because leading after the wedding is what matters more to me. The whole lifetime with this person that you should treat him as part of you; and build a family with children whom are the coolness of our eyes. InsyaAllah.. and that thought itself could make one very happy.


It’s not about the wedding stuffs. I remember people who attended my wedding and the precious moments. How I was overwhelmed with emotions when my dad hugged me tightly before the akad nikah & my mom whispered “you’ll always be my baby” during the akad nikah ceremony. And the happiest thing I could remember on my wedding day was holding his hand for the very first time. That was surreal, I loved it so much. See? I don’t remember much about the wedding stuffs; although they’re really nice – the dress, the pelamin, the bunga telur, Alhamdulillah, but I don’t remember that time and again.  I always have this theory, the longer it takes to prepare a wedding the harder it gets to let the wedding itself go… After 1 year (or even more) of preparing, it will all be over in 2 days, and you’d go.. “That’s it? That’s The wedding?” So please, once you have met the right person to marry, go ahead with it – quickly.


Some really good books on preparing yourselves for marriage, I would recommend:

1. The Muslim Family Series by Muhammad Mustafa al-Jibaly

2. The Ideal Muslimah by Dr. Muhammad Ali Al Hashimi

Can get them from Dakwah Corner Bookstore –


Some really good speakers I love listening to (YouTube them):

1. Mufti Menk

2. Nouman Ali Khan

3. Mussab Wadji Akkari


So there you go. A little note of love from the quite newly married me to all my single sisters. I always make du’a for Allah to hasten the jodoh for all my single sisters with a pious and great men who will be the coolness of their eyes. Please make loads of du’a for yourselves too. Never lose hope in the mercy of Allah.  “Hook up with Allah and Allah will hook you up”, remember? 🙂

A wife is like a gift to a man. And there is a hadith that goes like this:


“This world is just temporary conveniences, and the best comfort in this world is righteous women.” – Sahih Muslim 10/56.


So prepare yourself to be a gift (and not a test) to your future husband, so that one day he will hold you and look lovingly in your eyes and say “Alhamdulillah”.




Do share if you feel this would benefit others, insyaAllah.

Please make doa for Allah to shower me & my family with His mercy and keep us steadfast on the right path. Ameen


Amin Ya Rabb Sister Jenna. Jazakallah Khair for such a beautiful write up. 


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4// Rumah Titian Kaseh / Young Muslim Project (YMP)


1:48 am. Its Monday, the beginning of the workdays. My day went well despite those problems I’m facing at home and college. However, for this fourth post, I would love to tell my experience with these 3 bodies of non profit which has so many activities to offer to us, society.

On last Sunday (22/07) I went to Rumah Titian Kaseh together with Nabilla, Salsabil and Miza for the very first time. Rumah Titian Kaseh is one of the project under Young Muslim Project (YMP). It is divided into two homes (boys & girls) which are located at different geographical area. Here’s the link for further information.

As we arrived, some of the boys has already sat down according to their usual seat. While waiting for others to arrive, Gaelle and Aunty Maya gave a brief introduction on what they’re going to learn. Topic was : What is your favorite food for break fasting?

They were really funny, masyaAllah most of them answered the same thing. = Fried Chicken

I acknowledged that they are slow learner, which has the disability to follow the normal pace with other students. My student was Zamarul, 9 years old. He is really cute and so chubby. 🙂 So I taught him basic thing like name, age, hobby, ambition, favorite food/drink/color. He did pretty well, it just need more and more lesson, that’s all. ‘Patience is a virtue’ – its worth your time & effort (Alhamdullilah!) InsyaAllah, this will be my Sunday morning routine from now. It’ll be great if any of us join and teach them even just for a day. Trust me, it really gives them light and hope (love, companion and memories as well)

It was 12.30pm and we had to rush for YMP gathering at Husna’s place at Tropicana Indah. Dah lah we don’t know the way, GPRS is useless I tell ya. But nevertheless, we found her house and everyone was there (we were the last one by the way). Once we’re in, Amin (Halimah’s brother) as the main person in the circle gave a brief introduction on the gathering and showed a video from Sheikh Yahya Ibrahim himself. (It was really touching and sad). Managed to learn 3 main principles which are:

1) During Ramadhan, try to improve yourself. (in every way possible)

2) Do good deeds to others (doesn’t matter what kind of charity or form but make sure its with Allah  blessing)

3) Care for your family (respect, honor, trust and value them as your priorities)

Alhamdullilah, met some girls/boy(s) from the YMP L.E.P.A.K Camp as well. I truly miss them as if I’ve known them for so long. That’s what so wonderful about being surrounded with great people MasyaAllah. Here I’ll provide the link for their facebook page

ANYONE/EVERYONE/YOU are welcome to join this project, we lead and help each other to Jannah, insyaAllah.

I was about to update on PERTIWI Soup Kitchen as well, but I have no more energy to type nor look at the screen. Will update on next post insyaAllah. With this, I like to conclude that we all should find time to do good deeds and spend our time with people with life perspective to Jannah, not Dunya. Amin Ya Rabbal Al lamin.

6. Daripada Abu Umamah Al-Bahili r.a, Nabi S.A.W bersabda: “Perbuatan-perbuatan baik melindungi serangan jahat.”
(Hadis riwayat Al-Tirmizi dan Ahmad) 

: Taken from

The boys at TKEP

Sheikh Yahya Ibrahim’s Personal Vid

Salam Harapan. 

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